Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again

 Shirley J.           Adult Non-Fiction                          Forgiving Hurts, Betrayals, Trespasses & more

Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again by Lysa TerKeurst    288 pages

Lysa TerKeurst's husband had an affair with one of her friends.  It cut her to the quick.   Being a Christian she prayed and tried hard to get through the blow to her marriage, the rocking of her faith, the stretching of her ability to forgive and the shattered trust in her marriage and friendship.   She endured tense times and got through them, much counseling and therapy helped her come back from the dark place she found herself in along with spiritual counselling.   It was dicey for her at first as her husband and friend were not willing to give up their affair nor was there remorse for what went on.    Lysa and her husband did eventually arrive at reconciliation but there are still triggers to this day that send Lysa seeking counselling.  In this book she shares her experiences, her dealing mechanisms, the counselling she has benefitted from and how living day to day helps her become stronger, to let go of past resentments and to move on when the other person refuses to change.   She trusts in the Bible's teachings on forgiveness and  to trust in the good that is ahead.   While she comes mostly from the hurt she bore, she teaches how the principles she uses to cope can be used in other situations where people have been shattered and left to pick up the pieces of their lives and learn to continue living in spite of deplorable circumstances.   A good book with many good ideas.  The material is delivered to an adult audience but it might benefit younger people going through abusive situations as well though it doesn't specifically touch on that.